Are you busy?
Not like kinda busy…like I’m lucky if I sleep 6 hours busy?
There are days that I wake up and immediately enter the fray of life. The moment my feet hit the floor I’m running at top speed.
I’m homeschooling six kids, taking care of a baby, making breakfast, lunch and dinner, trying to clean up the house (which is incessantly dirty), spend time with my husband, blog, play games with kids…you get the picture, right?
I’m sure your life is like this too!
But are you so busy you aren’t spending time in the Word of God and in prayer?
I’ve been really slacking in that area lately.
Okay, let’s be real…I’m writing this email instead of spending time in prayer.
Total hypocrite, right?
Yes…but I going to remedy this.
And if you are in the same boat as I am, I want to share with you a truth that the Lord has been placing on my heart lately.
If I ignored my husband as much as I ignore the Lord what do I think would happen?
Because we know what would happen.
Our marriage would start to run on the fumes of yesterday.
Eventually, running out of gas altogether.
We’d be stuck. Stranded. Desperate.
We might turn on each other. Bicker. Fight.
We’d start feeling sorry for ourselves. Blame the other person.
If the right man came along with the right moves, we might be tempted to jump in his nice air-conditioned vehicle.
You see, without constant connection and communication with God our relationship will falter and fail.
Relationships take work.
If my husband complimented me ten years ago, that compliment doesn’t carry much weight today.
If we went on five dates in a row six months ago, that’s not enough to shoulder the burden of financial strain and marital hardships today.
If this is so, why, oh, why do we treat our relationship with God like that?
We pat ourselves on the back when we do a morning Bible study once a month and think it’s enough!
That’s like saying putting a small amount of money in our bank account ONCE is enough for the entire month.
If your husband were to go to work only one time a week for two hours (like we do Sunday morning), would you expect a good paycheck?
Nope. Not even close.
Hear me now…I’m there. This message is a wakeup call even for me.
We want BOLD and extravagant faith to move mountains, but we aren’t willing to put our backs into it!
Sometimes, as Christians, we can be delusional.
We want to say that the grace of God will get us through.
And it will.
This isn’t a salvation issue. If you never do a Bible study, you will still get to heaven. I refuse to preach that you get to heaven by works. Jesus paid that price ONCE and for all. There’s nothing else required.
But if we want to live dynamic Christian lives we have to pursue the Lord with our whole heart.
The Bible says it like this:
Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. Galatians 6:7
But, but, but…
Everyone loves their own excuses.
But excuses are just that…excuses.
I’ve heard it said that “Excusitis (the disease of giving excuses) is the failure’s disease.”
Last week, I talk about sharing the gospel.
I’m passionate about telling others about Jesus…at least in my mind.
But if I can’t even muster up the courage and strength to FIGHT for regular time with the Almighty Living God, how can I expect to be led by the Spirit to do His will?
Pretend that someone super important in your life was coming to your house tomorrow. How would you prepare?
You’d clean. Make sure all your ducks in a row.
If your kids tried to get you to go swimming when you needed to make food for the occasion, you’d say, “Sorry, honey, but mommy’s busy.”
If your best friend called, you’d tell her that you’ll need to call her back.
Often, we let all these unessential tasks interrupt our time with God.
We don’t fight for Jesus the way He fought for us.
5 Ways to Overcome Being Too Busy for God
You probably read the scripture that says that “confession brings healing.”
It’s an easy step…but essential.
Confess to God (and yourself) that you’ve been not giving your devotional time your all.
Maybe even confess to someone else. A husband. A sister. A friend. A Facebook group, even?
Confession levels the playing field. It’s like a fresh start. It’s an announcement that says:
Today, I’m starting a new way.
But don’t stop there.
Make a Plan
You’ve heard it said: If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.
The same is true for your spiritual life.
You have to make a plan to spend time with God.
Then, you have to KEEP that plan!
I once heard a story of a man who dined with a king. After a few hours, he stood up and announced he was leaving. This was unheard of. The king was supposed to dismiss the man, not the other way around. When asked why he had to leave so abruptly the man answered:
I have an appointment very early in the morning with someone greater than you that I cannot miss.
WOW! Can you imagine?
What if we remembered that God was more important than a king, a president, a famous person, a child, or a husband? Or anything we normally put in front of getting to know Him more intimately?
So, what’s your plan? (I’m asking myself this same question.)
How are you going to accomplish spending more time with God?
I often feel like the word “accountability” is for those new Christians. Not seasoned ones like me!
But let me tell you a story.
After having seven babies, I’ve learned what DOES and DOES NOT work for losing weight after a baby.
What does not work: Talking about it.
What DOES work: Taking action. (aka making a plan)
What does not work: Doing it alone.
What DOES work: Finding a group to keep you motivated to push through the hard times.
After having baby #5 and #6, I really struggled to lose all the baby weight. The Lord told me what to do, but I couldn’t hack it by myself.
Now, after this seventh baby, I finally joined Weight Watchers and attend weekly meetings to check in on my progress.
With accountability, the 25 lbs of baby weight melted away!
I don’t attend the group because I think it’s impossible to do it alone, I attend because I KNOW it’s easier when you have accountability.
On top of having a plan, we need to employ some sort of system for accountability.
Whether it’s a friend, a Bible study group or your husband…find something that works.
Change Things Up
After I lost the baby weight, I still had/have the pre-baby-baby weight (you know the kind..from all the babies before the last baby!).
But then something happened.
Life changed. The baby started eating solids.
I was doing all the same things I’d done before, but my weight loss stalled.
I thought I was doomed to be 15 pounds over my goal forever.
Thankfully, I was able to push through the funk by getting advice.
Asking for advice when things aren’t working takes humility.
Don’t be afraid to change things up if you have been doing the same type of Bible study/devotional time forever and it’s not working for you anymore.
Don’t waste time on an un-Spirit-filled quiet time.
Shake things up!
Try a Journaling Bible or a new Bible study method.
Seriously…stop with the routine for the sake of routine.
Your routine is made for you…you were not made for routine.
Create a Rewards System
Think about it.
If you get money every time you go to work…you continue to work.
If your kids get candy for chores…they do their chores. (I’m always saying that candy is the currency of childhood.)
You can set up a “rewards” system for being more successful at keeping up with your time with God.
Of course, we know that spending time with Jesus is it’s own reward, just like spending time at the gym is it’s own reward. But that doesn’t keep people who are trying to lose weight from celebrating every time they lose 10 lbs!
Here are some potential examples:
If I do a daily quiet time for 20 minutes for 1 week, I’ll buy myself that Christian book I’ve been wanting.
If I join a local Bible study, I’ll allow $20 for a new outfit to wear on the first day.
Use whatever reward system works for you, no judgment.
There is nothing unspiritual about buying yourself a pretty shade of lipstick or splurging on a coffee cup that has the words #BLESSED on it. In fact, just the opposite could be said. Every time you drink out of that cup or put on that lipstick is a reminder of your achievement. This positive reinforcement can go a long way to keep us on track.
Too many times Christians use the “flogging” method. Meaning, they are constantly taking their metaphoric cat-of-nine-tails and whipping themselves repeatedly on the back swearing that they “aren’t good enough.”
Celebrate your achievement if you’ve spent two weeks consistently in prayer.
Life’s too short to be always feeling like you need to “do better” all the time.
Talk to Me
What’s your story?
Do you struggle with consistent quiet times?
Are you feeling far from God?
Comment below. I do this all for you!
And now…it’s time to go pull out my Bible.
Head covering Christian woman who loves good wine, coffee, stinky cheese and missionary books. My favorite dessert is Peanut Butter Chocolate Cheesecake. I am a Christian author, blogger, and speaker. I fell in love with my husband because he had rain drops on his glasses (true story). In my spare time I homeschool my six children (5 girls, 2 boys).