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It’s because of finances.
It’s because of a potential job change.
It’s because there is already enough stress.
These are the 3 reasons my husband isn’t ready for another baby right now.
We’ve never really planned any of our children (except one). They all came in the middle of lack of money, the need for a job change and stress…so what makes it different now I’ve asked him?
But as a dutiful and submissive wife, I am trying to be content.
But if I’m honest with you…I’ve failed miserably.
Not only does he feel the pressure from me, but my children have been asking for another brother or sister.
When people ask about the family, I always end the conversation with how I want another baby but am waiting on my husband’s approval…until recently when he made it clear that I had stepped over the line of respect.
And I had.
As much as I preach a message of submissive wife, I had unknowingly “joked” my way into making my husband feel pressured to do something he was expressly against at this moment.
From that day forward I have stopped joking about having another baby and have explained to the children why they shouldn’t ask for another brother or sister.
I know, so many women are in my same situation. They want another (or a first) baby, but their husband isn’t ready for another baby.
Of course we can pray that God softens our husband’s heart toward having children (and pray for those future children), but need to be careful to not get too caught up in something that might not ever happen if he doesn’t change his mind.
Enjoy Your Season
This moment. The one you’re in right now. You will never get it back again.
Whether you are child-free or you have children, enjoy this season of your life. Focus on today, instead of on tomorrow.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said,
“We are always getting ready to live but never living.”
Don’t live for tomorrow, because tomorrow may never come.
Live life full. Take a class. Learn something new. Enjoy your freedom. Hug the children you have. Seize THIS day.
The Harsh Reality of An Unprepared Husband
Our last baby came at a very unexpected time. For some reason, it really hit my husband hard. He wanted the baby, but he wanted to be in a better place financially before we had another.
Those nine months weren’t very fun. I was more concerned with my husband’s well-being than anything else.
I told myself I would never have another baby that would cause my husband to react that way again. I want the news of our next baby to be a joyous occasion.
Of course, everything worked out fine. My husband adores our little girl, but I wanted to share my story with you to show that it’s not a fun road when your husband doesn’t want a baby (or isn’t ready for one) and you’re pregnant.
You DO want your spouse to be on board. You don’t want to manipulate your husband into having another baby. Even subtly.
Wouldn’t it be amazing if when you announced your pregnancy your husband rushed up to embrace you?
Or jumped up to call his entire family with excitement?
Or better yet…wouldn’t it be great if having a baby was HIS idea?
Imagine him buying ovulation predictors and charting your fertility to ensure you get pregnant.
Head covering Christian woman who loves good coffee and stinky cheese. My favorite dessert is Peanut Butter Chocolate Cheesecake. I am a Christian author, blogger, and speaker. I fell in love with my husband because he had rain drops on his glasses (true story). In my spare time I homeschool my seven children (5 girls, 2 boys).
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