Once you discover the biblical mandate to head cover, you probably will find yourself wanting to share this newfound knowledge with your friends.
Just like sharing your salvation experience, you want to express the beauty and freedom you have found by obeying and aligning yourself with the divine order of God through Jesus Christ.
But sharing sometimes so…I don’t know…not a part of our “normal” culture can be scary.
Many people immediately have their own stereotypical judgement about people who head cover.
Here are some tips for how to share head covering with friends.
How to Share Head Covering with Friends
1) Be an Example
Wear it consistently. This doesn’t mean all the time, but whatever you are convicted of make sure you do it in a consistent manner.
- If you cover just at church, always cover at church.
- If you cover all the time, cover all the time.
Obviously there is room for error and grace, but in general be consistent.
2) Speak Positively
Whining about anything is a turn off. So remember to speak positively about head covering. Don’t sugar-coat.
Head covering is not a magic bullet, but it IS beautiful and biblical.
3) Don’t Stress Rules
If you ONLY wear a certain style, you can share with your friend why you wear that type of covering, but make sure to enforce that there is not a prescribed style of covering in scripture.
Let the Holy Spirit be free to do the work of moderating which style they decide is appropriate for their situation.
4) Know Your Scriptures
It’s important to have a solid understanding of what 1 Corinthians 11 means. I suggest using HeadCoveringMovement.com for all exegesis on the subject of head covering.
The founder, Jeremy Gardiner, has committed himself to studying head covering and has many sources, both living and historical.
You can also buy his book, Head Covering: A Forgotten Christian Practice for Modern Times, on Amazon.
5) Know the Counter-Arguments
It’s great to know the biblical reasons for covering, but knowing the arguments against head covering will help strengthen your own understanding and be able to refute them when they come up in conversation.
6) Be Sensitive to the Holy Spirit
While I do believe head covering is biblical, I also believe we must be sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit when/where to talk to our friends about head covering.
When informing friends about covering, be graceful and careful not to condemn anyone into covering. Covering out of guilt instead of conviction is not the fullness of Christ.
The Lord deals graciously with you, and we should mimic him. The long-suffering and kindness of our Lord leads us to repentance (aka change of direction).
If you find that you friend is obviously distressed you might want to save your head covering conversation for later.
Prayer should go before us where we intend to go.
Prayer is the part of the reason we cover, so should it be part of the way we tell others about covering.
8) Know Your Audience
People respond to head covering differently. I’ve found the people adamantly opposed to head covering are those who associate it with church abuse. Church abuse is a very real issue in some ultra-conservative churches where works are exalted high above grace and relationship.
Those who don’t have a background in the church might have an easier time accepting covering. If you are talking to a Muslim convert, they might struggle with head covering because their previous religion, or they might find it comforting.
Whatever the response, the more you know the person you are speaking with the better the chance of explain head covering in a way that is beneficial to them.
9) Give it Time
One of my best friends told me head covering wasn’t for her when I first spoke with her about covering. Within a week, the Lord revealed to her that covering was, in fact, biblical.
Just because someone doesn’t jump on the head-covering bandwagon from the moment you start talking about it doesn’t mean they won’t change their mind later on.
10) Don’t Be Afraid
Fear is the opposite of faith. Fear holds us back from talking (or even offering a gentle challenge) to our friends about head covering. Faith opens our mouths to say that first thing about head covering that could potentially lead us down a conversation about covering.
Fear tells us that head covering is weird and we don’t have to do it if it makes us feel uncomfortable. Faith prompts us to do what is righteous in spite of our flesh telling us to run in the other direction.
Your Friends Will Thank You
If your friends are truly desiring God’s will over their own in their lives, they will thank you for introducing them to head covering.
Deciding to head cover can be divisive, but it doesn’t have to be!
By boldly declaring your convictions about covering, giving your friends grace and the space to decide on their own time whether or not to cover and praying, you will have done your job to declare the Word of the Lord whether they decide to cover or not.
You will be judged based on your own obedience to God and not on whether or not your friends decided to cover once you share information about head covering with them.
I hope this helps. This is how I’ve personally lived out my head covering walk with friends!
Head covering Christian woman who loves good wine, coffee, stinky cheese and missionary books. My favorite dessert is Peanut Butter Chocolate Cheesecake. I am a Christian author, blogger, and speaker. I fell in love with my husband because he had rain drops on his glasses (true story). In my spare time I homeschool my six children (5 girls, 2 boys).