*This post is enabled by The Blog About Network for sending me Move Toward the Mess: The Ultimate Fix for a Boring Christian Life to review. The ideas in this blog post are mine and mine alone.
I’ve ranted about almost any church I’ve attended.
There’s the church that feels more like a rock concert than a venue for worshipping the Creator.
There’s the church where people fall down all the time and you are wondering if the prayer-people are pushing them down (because sometimes when you get prayed for you feel like they are trying to “slay you in the Spirit” by force!).
There’s the legalistic church, the led-by-the-spirit-beer-drinking church, the church with incense and the church with no instruments. And don’t forget the “come to Sunday service on SuperBowl Sunday and you might win a TV church.”
I’m not trying to dog any of these churches, personally I believe that most of them (might) serve a purpose in our messy spiritual journey toward an everlasting and holy God.
It doesn’t matter if you go to a ultra-conservative church or a Spirit-led-dance-down-the-aisles church…it’s always the same.
At some point, boring sermons and contrived emotions are universal plights to ALL churches and denominations.
Have you felt this way?
C’mon. Admit it. You have. Because NO church is perfect or exempt.
Well, YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!
Eventually you get bored at church.
Why is this?
I’ve found my latest book-crush. It’s called “Move Toward the Mess: The Ultimate Fix for a Boring Christian Life“ by John Hambrick.
And I love this quote from the back cover:
Some pastors preach boring sermons. Some church music is dull. But here’s the thing: If Jesus had been boring, the disciples wouldn’t have followed him and the Pharisees wouldn’t have killed him.
Here are my five questions to ask yourself to unlock the mystery of a boring church life!
5 Questions to Ask Yourself When You Feel Bored at Church
1. How is my daily spiritual journey?
Excitement at church starts with your daily spiritual journey.
Out of the church building.
If you are expecting to ignore God and His Word all week and come into church for an Spirit-filled worship session followed by a dynamic session that makes you wonder if the preacher is reading your diary…well, you got another thing coming.
Of course, when you FIRST got saved…maybe. Maybe God did all the work and you just received. But this Christ-thing is a relationship. Back-and-forth. You and God.
You’ve heard the phrase, “You’ll never make it to Heaven on Grandma’s apron strings,” right?
Likewise, you won’t receive a spectacular church experience if you only trying to go off of the pastor’s Sunday-morning faith.
2. Am I only a pew warmer?
In the book I mentioned at the beginning of this post, Move Toward the Mess: The Ultimate Fix for a Boring Christian Life, John Hambrick says only going to church on Sunday is like a football player only listening to the pre-game speech.
The thing that makes church relevant is getting in the game.
If you aren’t out DOING the Great Commission, you won’t appreciate the preaching of the Great Commission.
Talking and not doing is like a writer who SWEARS he’s one day going to write a novel but makes 1000 excuses why he can’t do it today. Lame.
Eventually that writer will determine that all those books he has read on the writing process are worthless and they will be put in the garage sale pile for some other poor shmuck.
3. Who Are My Friends?
You may have heard it said, “Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.”
At least I have.
And I say it to my kids too. Ad Nauseam.
Your friends determine a lot in your life. If you friends are constantly growing and challenging themselves in their own faith, chances are they will challenge you.
If your friends are a bunch of namby-pamby Christians that aren’t active in their faith, most likely you will be a wishy-washy Christian too.
Re-examine your friendship if you are struggling with church boredom.
4. What Am I Watching/Reading?
Much like friendships, what you are watching and reading have a significant impact on your spiritual life.
Hollywood is making a killing on making life look glitzy and action-packed.
Everyone is always completely in love, perpetually on a life-changing mission and constantly at death’s door only to be rescued at the final moment.
Same with books.
Compare a star-studded Hollywood-move life to a life that is…well…normal, a Sunday morning church service can seem pretty darn boring.
It’s just a call to realize that life isn’t always filled with “you-had-me-at-hello” moments.
5. Am I Idealizing ‘A Perfect Church’?
We all want ‘a perfect church,’ but on this side of heaven it’s just not going to happen.
I love the verse that says,
Where no oxen are, the trough is clean; But much increase comes by the strength of an ox. Proverbs 14:4
A church is perfect…until you add people.
People are messy, so church will be messy. But it’s when we ‘move toward the mess‘ that we increase the Body of Christ and glory of God.
Truthfully admitting that you are unhappy at your current church is one thing.
Hoping and wishing for the perfect church is another.
Someone very dear to me once wanted a certain type of church because she thought it would perfectly dovetail her personal doctrine. She prayed and prayed that the Lord would open up that door. When he did, she quickly realized that what she thought she wanted…but found wasn’t all it was cracked up to be. She actually told me that she felt that finding her particular ‘perfect church’ was like when the Israelites prayed and prayed for king, even though God told them that HE was their king. God eventually granted them Saul…and we know how crazy that all turned out to be!
The church is full of broken people, doing their best by doing imperfect things to serve a perfect and holy God.
Even if you find “the perfect church” one day you will see that it too is flawed in its own special way.
A church that is “modern” might struggle with being too entertainment-focused.
A church that is “traditional” might struggle with being legalistic.
Every coin has an opposite side and every church will have it’s thorn.
What Do I Do Now?
Does being bored at church mean you have to change only your perspective or acitons?
You certainly can find a new church if that’s what you want. Don’t waste another minute at a church that you are certain isn’t what you want.
But if you, like me, have church-hopped enough to know that boredom isn’t always the church’s fault, taking these questions to God in prayer is a great way to start discovering why you are bored at church.
Head covering Christian woman who loves good wine, coffee, stinky cheese and missionary books. My favorite dessert is Peanut Butter Chocolate Cheesecake. I am a Christian author, blogger, and speaker. I fell in love with my husband because he had rain drops on his glasses (true story). In my spare time I homeschool my six children (5 girls, 2 boys).