Oscar Wilde said, “Experience is the hardest kind of teacher. It gives you the test first, and the lesson afterward.”
While experience may teach us, many times it isn’t the best (or gentlest) teacher.
People everywhere are pressuring our children to fit in, as parents must became their first teachers…instead of allowing experience to teach them.
Lailah Gifty Akita said, “The best way to teach a child is to live an exemplary life.”
In a world that’s constantly trying to negatively influence our children, we must stay on guard and protect them from the wiles of the devil.
It is not the main job of the church, the schools, Hollywood or any other forms of entertainment to teach our children.
They may learn from their teachers, go to church to learn from the preacher, or even watch clean, appropriate films, it is still the responsibility of the parents to teach and train their children.
Here are some verses that reinforce that it’s the parent’s job to teach their children.
- The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame. Proverbs 29:17 KJV
- Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell. Proverbs 23:13-14 KJV
- Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22: KJV
- The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself brings his mother to shame. Proverbs 29:15 KJV
God Gave Your Children to YOU!
No doubt, children are a gift from God. In fact, even God has a child and His name is Jesus.
As parents, we have the great opportunity to nurture and admonish them. Just as newborn babies need physical nurturing to grow, children also need to grow spiritually.
As mothers and fathers, we get to raise the children that God has entrusted to us for His honor, glory, and pleasure. I’d say that’s a pretty high calling but also a great responsibility that we should not take lightly.
Just as any training requires work, raising a child takes work. It requires patience, endurance, discipline, forgiveness, love, and much more.
God gave us children so we could experience the same joy He received from His only child. But true joy can only come when we raise them the right way.
3 Truths to Teach When Biblically Training Your Child
Love God Above All Else
More than anything, we should desire for our children to love God above all else.
Sometimes, our children loving God more than anything or anyone may require them being called to do something we may not be fully in favor of.Distance and dangers can play a major part in our lack of support. But we must remember, that the safest place for them to be is in the center of God’s will.
This all goes back to the point that our children are not really ours. We are just borrowing them from the Lord.
Next, we should want our children to learn that love and respect shouldn’t be a burden. It starts with us as mothers and wives showing love and respect to our husbands.
One way we can show our children how to respect authority, is by making our husbands look good in private and in public.
Another way to teach respect at home is by prioritizing our husbands before the kids, even when it’s challenging.
Live in Truth
As parents, one of the toughest questions we can ask ourselves daily is “Do they see Jesus in me?”
It’s tough because everyday, our patience is tested and our time is altered. If we aren’t careful, we go about parenting like it’s any other job but it isn’t.
The souls of the children that have been placed in our care are at stake and if they cannot see Jesus in our lives, WE COULD be one of the reasons THEIR ETERNAL DESTINATION is altered.
When they look at us, do they see someone that is holy, consecrated to God and separated from the world or someone that is a little bit of both?
If it’s the latter, then that is hypocrisy.
We have to teach them to practice what they preach by doing it first ourselves.
3 Ways to Foster Biblical Training
Benjamin Franklin said, “Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn.”
Most parents tell their children to do good things, some parents instruct their children how to do good things, but only a few parents show their children how to do good things.
Don’t settle for just being an ordinary parent; be extraordinary by involving them in all you do.
Create a Safe Environment
We can be excellent parents by displaying Christ’s love daily; not just on Sundays or at church. It’s sad that many of us can act one way in church and another way at home.
Our homes should be a haven; a place that our children and spouses want to come home to.
Creating a safe haven includes having a gentle spirit instead of a short temper.
Always Have Grace
Lastly, we must love others as Christ does and teach our children to do the same.
Loving others can sometimes be difficult, especially when people are unlovable but God commanded us to love them, in spite of who they are or how they act.
Make sure all you do is full of grace and love, because biblical training is messy business and your children are bound to make mistakes.
Give God All the Glory
As a young teenager, I didn’t have parents who displayed love correctly, and I could’ve easily gave in to the peer pressure and learned the hard way by experiencing things I shouldn’t have, but God spared me. Had it not been for Him, I wouldn’t be married to my husband and raising our two beautiful girls for His glory.
It’s important to rest on Christ as you raise your children up in the way they should go.
All success is His and His alone.
I am the happily-married wife to my David and a working mom with two daughters. I truly love and enjoy blogging about Motherhood, Being a Wife, and writing about Spiritual matters.